PROBLEM SOLVED! After replying in the message above I went out to dinner. This has been driving me nuts and I am sitting there eating when it hits me... I had wired the light blue brake "on" wire into the relay opposite the TCC. Technically correct, it will get 12 volts when the pedal is pressed, it also creates the same problem found when folks install leds with no resistors = no resistance on the line.
Got home, grabbed the flashlight and attached the light blue wire direct to the brake lights "on" side of the brake switch. Woohoo we have cruise. See you are a miracle worker.
